To Improve The Quality Of Your Life, Focus On Getting Better

Personal Growth Is A Long And Arduous Journey

Do you want to improve your life? Are you committed to changing your conditions? Many people will answer yes to these questions, though it is my experience very few people are dedicated to improve their life. This is because the work is difficult, unending and filled with setbacks and disappointments. It is often lined with unpleasant emotions and digging up the past to heal and transform our wounds. But there is no other way than doing the difficult work of attending to our personal growth. It cannot happen overnight nor in thirty days, as many books espouse because this is only skimming the surface.

Everything taking place in your life right now, whether unwanted or not, is the accumulation of your thoughts and beliefs. This is empowering for many reasons least of which means you have the power to change your future by redirecting your thoughts. How you feel about this? Does it make you unhappy that your life's conditions result from everything you've ever thought? Whilst I understand you might feel this way, you may also see the power to create new circumstances for your life from this point forward. As I alluded to earlier, personal growth is a long and arduous journey with many setbacks and detours. Those who embark on this journey give up because of the difficulties they face.

I liken it to the Navy Seals BUD/S program where only 20 to 30% of candidates will graduate. The training is extreme and purposefully designed to weed out those not equipped to become Navy Seals. In some respects, personal growth is the same if you're not willing to do the work to improve your life. We cannot expect to do little work on ourselves and be awarded the riches of life, it just doesn't work that way. Read any biography on those who reached the pinnacle of success and you will learn about the struggles they endured. I'm reminded of the quote by the former American football player and coach Lou Holtz who said: "Show me someone who has done something worthwhile, and I'll show you someone who has overcome adversity." He was affirming that adversity builds character and contributes to our growth and development.

What Happens When The Going Gets Tough?

Therefore, to improve the quality of your life, avoid focusing on results but aim to get better instead. The goal is to build on your success while noting areas of improvement. For example, I wrote an article recently where I observed two people talking throughout an entire workshop I attended. Years ago, I would have been angered by their lack of courtesy and let them know about it. Think of those who talk throughout an entire film and ruin it for everyone else. However, I sat with my emotions and noted where I experienced the anger in my body. In the next instance, something unexpected happened. I felt compassion for these two people. I was overcome with a sense of peace and harmony because behind the anger was the realisation that only love exists. To reach this loving and peaceful state, we must first experience the anger, yet many people are quick to act on their emotions which prevents them from reaching love, compassion and inner peace.

Is this beginning to make sense, in that getting better should be our focus instead of wishing our lives were different? Are you willing to do the work no matter what it takes? Obviously you are invested in your personal growth because you are reading this article and maybe even sharing it with family and friends. But what happens when the going gets tough and you hit a hurdle in your personal growth? How do you react? Who do you become? I have encountered many setbacks over the past decade, yet I have experienced enormous growth during these times. Life will present us with the experiences needed for our personal growth when we least expect it. We can embrace the lessons or resist them, however they will continue to show up in a different form until we accept what is taking place.

So for now, I'd like you to give some thought to the areas of your life you want to improve. Write down in your journal/diary or on a piece of paper what you would like to improve about your life. Is it your finances, health, love life, career? Be very specific about what you want. Don't focus on what you don't want in your journaling. Second, what is required to change your circumstances? You might think you need to hire a life coach or invest in an expensive course but sometimes it is simpler than that. It may be as simple as not complaining for the next thirty days. It might require investigating your beliefs and forming new ones. The point is: everything you need to change your life is right at your fingertips. As you move through your personal development, the next resource will be made available to you. Therefore, to improve the quality of your life, stop focusing on results and direct your attention to enhancing the life you're living now.

Do you want to lead a remarkable life? Are you committed to taking action despite your fears and doubts? If so, download your FREE copy of my eBook NAVIGATE LIFE right now, and start your amazing journey of greatness today!

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8 Simple Self Improvement Principles

What Are You Broadcasting to the World?

Do you know that your brain does not make a distinction between real or imagined? That is why fear or any type of anxiety can overtake you even when you intellectually know it is irrational. And, that can be very frustrating.

The same is true for the thoughts and words that you express. By making simple changes, you can affect how each and every day turns out.

For example, when you refer to "my allergies" or "my migraines" or "my pain", your brain is taking ownership of that experience. Your brain agrees with the statement. Rephrasing and using difference words can make a significant difference. For example: "I am experiencing allergy symptoms" or "I feel a blinding pain in my head" or "I would like to eliminate the pain in my back", acknowledges what you are experiencing and going through. You are not denying what you are physically feeling, you are simply NOT allowing your brain and body to own something that could be resolved.

It is also so easy to broadcast negative beliefs about yourself without realizing it. It has become habit. Listening to and becoming aware of what you are saying and immediately rephrasing it in a positive way is the first step.

Examples:

• "I can't trust myself." vs "I am learning to trust myself."
• "I'm so stupid." vs "I am intelligent and learning more each day."
• "I should have done more." vs "I did the best I could."
• "I can never get ahead." vs " "I am taking steps towards being successful."
• "I will never get better." vs "I am exploring healing methods."

A simple, yet powerful method of releasing your negative thoughts, feelings and experiences is to use a magnet. A refrigerator magnet is all you need.

For example:

You are feeling so frustrated and you don't know what to do about it. Grab a magnet, think about the feeling you having of frustration and bring the magnet between your eyebrows and trace it along the middle of your head, all the way to back of your neck. Do that 3 times.

Dr. Bradley Nelson, a chiropractor, kinesiologist and author of The Emotion Code, offers tremendous insight into personal healing in his book and on many YouTube videos. His system of healing is simple, safe and designed so that anyone can help themselves and their loved ones. Dr. Nelson says:

"I use magnets because I believe they literally magnify the power of your intention to get the job done."

I can speak to the power of Dr. Nelson's work because I use his methods and magnets in my holistic nursing practice in conjunction with my 30 years of study.

Make today the day that you retrain your brain and turn your life around. Success is just around the corner!

Ginger Bisplinghoff, RN, BS, Kinesiologist, Flower Essence Practitioner, Face Reader and author has 40+ years of experience in both traditional and holistic nursing. She is devoted to helping people change their lives, discover their true essence and create the best possible future. Her clients and students often remark about her passion, enthusiasm and ability to take a complicated subject and break it down into easily understandable components. Ginger's website is http://optionstohealth.com and she can be reached at optionstohealth@comcast.net.

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TONY ROBBINS: How to Find Yourself When You're Feeling Lost

Credibility Matters

Credibility has two key parts: dependability and skill, which both have objective and emotional segments. Dependability depends more on abstract elements. In fact, credibility is an apparent quality, one that individuals dole out to you dependent on the transaction of various components. Absence of trustworthiness can counteract the positive effect of skill.

Likewise, the elements of credibility is important. Lack of integrity can cancel out the positive impact of expertise. Credibility includes straightforwardness, reliability, and good consistency. Honesty is the basic component to move conviction. Furthermore, we allot high believability to individuals who have clear good principles and who are known to adhere to them.

Be mindful so as not to think little of the significance of trustworthiness and honesty in the working environment. Individuals who have a reputation of being goal-oriented and honest are seen as more dependable than the individuals who don't.

Mastery turns into competence when it is put to the test. A person earns her credibility as competent by succeeding at assignments and projects over time. A track record of successfully applying knowledge and a willingness to continue learning increases perceived credibility.

Simultaneously, individuals who have come up through the positions or have worked in assorted employments inside an industry are viewed as experts. These people typically have more seen skill than new school graduates. Skill transforms into fitness when it is put under a magnifying glass. An individual gains her validity as skilled by prevailing at assignments and activities after some time. A reputation of effectively applying information and a readiness to keep learning increments saw believability.

As a decent companion can be depended on to listen well and urge you to settle on astute choices, a solid individual can be relied on to dissect complex circumstances, pose shrewd inquiries, and use sound judgment. An individual with sound judgment ordinarily has both psychological and instinctive endowments. This individual takes a major picture as opposed to a nearsighted view and a long haul instead of a transient point of view.

Individuals with high credibility realize how to pose questions about qualities and interests, to listen eagerly and with compassion, and to force individuals together. These are the individuals with high enthusiastic knowledge to adjust the egotism now and then.

On the relationship side, individuals with high credibility have illustrated-once more, ordinarily after some time-that they can be trusted to tune in and to work to the greatest advantage of others. They have likewise reliably demonstrated forceful enthusiastic character and uprightness; that is, they are not known for state of mind boundaries or conflicting execution. To be sure, individuals who are known to be straightforward, relentless, and solid have an edge when going into any influence circumstance. Since their connections are powerful, they are progressively able to be assumed the best about.

An individual builds up a reputation seeing someone similarly builds up a reputation in action. The individuals who have the most seen believability are normally the ones who are socially delicate. Amiability is as significant as capacity. Successful individuals offset skill with affability. It is a demonstrated recipe for progress.
Credibility is considerably more than a vibe decent trademark.

Building your credibility is very important. It helps position you as a valuable person, and is crucial to building your career.

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Jim Rohn - 10 Life Skills Everyone Should Learn (personal development)

Become the BEST VERSION of Yourself!

What it REALLY Takes to Be the Best Version of Yourself!

Tony Robbins: Stop Thinking That I Can't Do It

Importance of Mentors

Throughout your life you will have remarkable mentors and teachers. How do you appreciate and thank them?

Your mentors and teachers show you how to do the work and inspire and motivate you to a higher level of achievement. They model how you should do the work and how to lead!

While I was a student at the Juilliard School, I played Principal viola at the 92nd Y Orchestra which gave me a stipend to help me pay my rent. One of the section members was an amazing and inspiring amateur violist named Herman Silver, age 75. He was passionate about playing chamber music on the weekends at his home with the best musicians in New York City. Herman would loan me the music to study for two weeks and would tell me the date of our concert. I would go to the Lincoln Center Public Library, borrow the recordings to study, and practice the music.

Herman enjoyed sharing his passion for chamber music with the next generation and had marvelous professionals join us. Herman was a marvelous and inspiring mentor. He introduced me to Toscha Samaroff, a concert violinist, who did studio work and recordings in New York City. He was a remarkable violinist, who had studied with Leopold Auer. When I met him he was 75 years old. Toscha played the very challenging first violin parts to Felix Mendelssohn Octet & Louis Spohr's Octet. Toscha was a remarkably strong leader who played with a beautiful tone and gorgeous phrasing. Herman Silver said, "Toscha Samaroff sounds just like Jascha Heifetz!"; a high compliment indeed. In these chamber works I played the first viola parts and Herman played second. It was one of the best experiences in my life playing with Toscha Samaroff. He was a magnificent musician. He led and encouraged others to play at their highest level of playing.

When Toscha came to visit his daughter, Lee, in Virginia Beach several years later, we arranged to play Handel Halvorsen's Passacaglia for violin and viola and other works. It was a beautiful chamber music experience I will long remember!

Another marvelous violinist who played with Herman Silver's Saturday night concert series was Stanley Hoffman. He studied violin with Arthur Grumiaux and studied at the Juilliard School with Mischa Mischakoff, Oscar Shumsky, and Raphael Bronstein. When I met Stanley, he was 47 years old. Herman Silver said, "Stanley plays Paganini 's Caprices brilliantly."

He was a member of the New York Philharmonic, and later the Jerusalem Radio Orchestra.

We played Tchaikovsky's Souvenir de Florence String Sextet in D minor with Stanley playing the difficult and beautiful first violin part. Stanley was a marvelous leader with his lovely phrasing and beautiful sound. When you played with Stanley you played at your highest level of playing too!

Over the 7 or 8 years we played together, we also played Brahms String Quintets, Mozart String Quintets, Beethoven String Quintets, and Dvorak String Quintets. It was an amazing experience.

Many years later I taught and played these same works with my students in concert. It's all about passing the mentorship gifts on to the next generation!

What are the three things you can do to mentor and teach others, to pass on the gifts your mentors gave to you?

1) Pass on their mentorship gifts to others! Dr. John Maxwell, number 1 leadership guru, and one of my mentors says, "Make people development your top priority and see everyone you mentor as a 10."

2) Model the way for others to follow by listening, observing, connecting, adding value to them, respecting them, empowering others, and instructing them.

Lift others up. Help the person you are mentoring by encouraging, motivating, and inspiring them to a higher level of excellence. Take them under your wing just like Herman Silver, Toscha Samaroff, and Stanley Hoffman did for me.

3) Mentors have a positive attitude and lead the way for the mentee to follow them!

Remarkable mentors and teachers make the difference! They help you to become the success you are today! Pass on their gifts to you, by mentoring the next generation to leave a lasting legacy from them.

Madeline Frank, Ph.D., DTM is an Amazon.com Best Selling Author, speaker, business owner, teacher, John Maxwell Team Member, concert artist, and parent. She helps businesses and organizations "Tune Up their Business". Her observations show you the blue prints necessary to improve and keep your business successful. Her latest book "Leadership On A Shoestring Budget" is available everywhere books are sold. If you need a speaker contact Madeline at: mfrankviola@gmail.com

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Jim Rohn - Psychology of Wealth Thinking

Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That They Have To Hide In Order To Survive?

One thing that can cause someone to get into self-development is if their life is not very fulfilling. What this can mean is that they haven't been able to make much progress in life or perhaps they have made progress, but they have only been able to get so far.
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Either way, they will be looking for a way to move forward and to life a more enriching life. If they have read a number of books and watched a fair amount of videos, they may have an idea as to why their life is the way that it is.

It's clear

They could believe that the reason their life is the way it is is because they lack self-esteem. Therefore, once they are able to increase their self-esteem, their life will gradually start to change.

What this will illustrate is that they are going to be in a position where they don't believe that they deserve to experience life differently. The view that they have of themselves is then going to be what is holding them back.

Moving Forward

One could end up using affirmations, replacing negative thoughts with positive thoughts, and changing what they believe. After doing this for a little while, they may find that their life starts to change.

At one point, it will have been as though they had their foot on the break and now this foot will be on the accelerator. They will start to make progress or they could rise to even greater heights.

A Different Outcome

Then again, one may find that even though their life does change, not a lot happens. Alternatively, they may find that they start to move forward, only to end up where they were a short while ago.

This could be a time when they feel really low and wonder if their life will ever change. If this does happen, it might not be long until they get back on their feet and start to think about why this has taken place.

A Closer Look

What may become clear as time goes by is that they have a fear of being seen. It is then not that they don't believe that they deserve to experience life differently; it is that they don't feel safe enough to experience life differently.

Therefore, the reason that they haven't able to make progress, or have only made a certain amount, will be due to the fact that going further will be seen as something that would put their very survival at risk. After becoming aware of this, they may struggle to understand what is going on.

An Irrational Outlook

They might come to believe that there is no reason for them to see life in this way, especially as they are a grown adult who lives in a relatively safe country. This fear will then be coming from a belief that has no basis in reality.

By bringing this belief out into the light and questioning it, they may find that its hold on them starts to diminish. At the same time, it might not be this easy and they could find that this belief is hard to change.

Going Deeper

Now, while their conscious mind might believe that there is no reason for them to have a fear of being seen, their unconscious mind will have a very different view. To this part of them, it won't be safe enough for them to be seen; it won't just be seen as something that they belief.

What took place during their early years may have played a big part when it comes to how this part of them perceives reality. This may have been a time in their life when it wasn't safe for them to be seen.

Hiding Means Surviving

When they were a child, they may have had to hide themselves and to put on an act. If they expressed who they were, they may have been rejected and/or abandoned, and they may have been harmed.

Additionally, the environment where they lived may have been so dysfunctional that they had to physically hide to avoid being harmed. This might not have stopped them from being harmed, but it may have minimised the damage that was done.

The Body Remembers

This stage of their life would have been a time when they experienced a lot of trauma. There would have been the so-called small-t traumas and there would have been a lot of the so-called big-t traumas too.

The years would have passed, causing their conscious mind to forget about what happened, but their unconscious mind will have remembered what took place. This part of them will be in control their life.

Awareness

Taking this into account, it will be essential for one to resolve the trauma that is being held in their body. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.

As they start to settle down and begin to feel as though it is safe enough for them to be seen, their life will change. This is something that will take patience and persistence.

Teacher, prolific writer, author, and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand, two hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.

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